经过一番搜索，我发现了一些关于如何用其他语言制作数据库驱动程序的其他堆栈溢出问题：
为应用程序创建自定义odbc驱动程序
实现odbc驱动程序
创建自定义odbc驱动程序
编写odbc驱动程序的替代方法
这些可能对其他走这条路的人有用，最有希望的建议是实现wire协议，其中一个是用python编写的，应该比较容易移植

import SocketServer
import struct

def char_to_hex(char):
    retval = hex(ord(char))
    if len(retval) == 4:
        return retval[-2:]
    else:
        assert len(retval) == 3
        return "0" + retval[-1]

def str_to_hex(inputstr):
    return " ".join(char_to_hex(char) for char in inputstr)

class Handler(SocketServer.BaseRequestHandler):
    def handle(self):
        print "handle()"
        self.read_SSLRequest()
        self.send_to_socket("N")

        self.read_StartupMessage()
        self.send_AuthenticationClearText()
        self.read_PasswordMessage()
        self.send_AuthenticationOK()
        self.send_ReadyForQuery()
        self.read_Query()
        self.send_queryresult()

    def send_queryresult(self):
        fieldnames = ['abc', 'def']
        HEADERFORMAT = "!cih"
        fields = ''.join(self.fieldname_msg(name) for name in fieldnames)
        rdheader = struct.pack(HEADERFORMAT, 'T', struct.calcsize(HEADERFORMAT) - 1 + len(fields), len(fieldnames))
        self.send_to_socket(rdheader + fields)

        rows = [[1, 2], [3, 4]]
        DRHEADER = "!cih"
        for row in rows:
            dr_data = struct.pack("!ii", -1, -1)
            dr_header = struct.pack(DRHEADER, 'D', struct.calcsize(DRHEADER) - 1 + len(dr_data), 2)
            self.send_to_socket(dr_header + dr_data)

        self.send_CommandComplete()
        self.send_ReadyForQuery()

    def send_CommandComplete(self):
        HFMT = "!ci"
        msg = "SELECT 2\x00"
        self.send_to_socket(struct.pack(HFMT, "C", struct.calcsize(HFMT) - 1 + len(msg)) + msg)

    def fieldname_msg(self, name):
        tableid = 0
        columnid = 0
        datatypeid = 23
        datatypesize = 4
        typemodifier = -1
        format_code = 0 # 0=text 1=binary
        return name + "\x00" + struct.pack("!ihihih", tableid, columnid, datatypeid, datatypesize, typemodifier, format_code)

    def read_socket(self):
        print "Trying recv..."
        data = self.request.recv(1024)
        print "Received {} bytes: {}".format(len(data), repr(data))
        print "Hex: {}".format(str_to_hex(data))
        return data

    def send_to_socket(self, data):
        print "Sending {} bytes: {}".format(len(data), repr(data))
        print "Hex: {}".format(str_to_hex(data))
        return self.request.sendall(data)

    def read_Query(self):
        data = self.read_socket()
        msgident, msglen = struct.unpack("!ci", data[0:5])
        assert msgident == "Q"
        print data[5:]

    def send_ReadyForQuery(self):
        self.send_to_socket(struct.pack("!cic", 'Z', 5, 'I'))

    def read_PasswordMessage(self):
        data = self.read_socket()
        b, msglen = struct.unpack("!ci", data[0:5])
        assert b == "p"
        print "Password: {}".format(data[5:])

    def read_SSLRequest(self):
        data = self.read_socket()
        msglen, sslcode = struct.unpack("!ii", data)
        assert msglen == 8
        assert sslcode == 80877103

    def read_StartupMessage(self):
        data = self.read_socket()
        msglen, protoversion = struct.unpack("!ii", data[0:8])
        print "msglen: {}, protoversion: {}".format(msglen, protoversion)
        assert msglen == len(data)
        parameters_string = data[8:]
        print parameters_string.split('\x00')

    def send_AuthenticationOK(self):
        self.send_to_socket(struct.pack("!cii", 'R', 8, 0))

    def send_AuthenticationClearText(self):
        self.send_to_socket(struct.pack("!cii", 'R', 8, 3))

if __name__ == "__main__":
    server = SocketServer.TCPServer(("localhost", 9876), Handler)
    try:
        server.serve_forever()
    except:
        server.shutdown()

包括ruby在内的每种编程语言都提供了实现各种sql服务器接口的包。
从这里开始：ruby数据库访问。