**“我想避免使用它，因为每次使用lock（）函数访问值有点麻烦和不切实际。

对于*(ptr.lock())与*ptr，这可能是正确的，但这是一个错误的比较。在解引用ptr之前，您应该始终检查ptr是否是nullptr：

if (ptr != nullptr) {
  auto value = *ptr;
}

这只是稍微比以下内容更详细：

if (auto sptr = ptr.lock()) {
  auto value = *sptr;
}

回答：

解决方案是std::shared_ptr和std::weak_ptr的组合。
而不是：

int* refToMyInt = nullptr; //I want to possibility to have empty pointer
int* refToMyInt2 = nullptr;
int* myInt = new int(2);
refToMyInt = myInt;
refToMyInt2 = refToMyInt;
delete myInt;
if(refToMyInt == nullptr && refToMyInt2 == nullptr)
  std::cout << "myInt Deleted!" << std::endl; // Never called

你可以写：

std::weak_ptr<int> refToMyInt;
std::weak_ptr<int> refToMyInt2;
std::shared_ptr<int> myInt{ new int(2) };
refToMyInt = std::weak_ptr<int>(myInt);
refToMyInt2 = std::weak_ptr<int>(myInt);
myInt.reset();
if(refToMyInt.expired() && refToMyInt2.expired())
  std::cout << "myInt Deleted!" << std::endl; // Never called

我保留了原始的变量名，以便于比较。

下面的例子将向您展示vector/make_unique的更多用途。

#include <memory>
#include <iostream>
#include <vector>
// dynamic memory allocation is mostly only necessary
// for polymorphic classes (e.g. classes derived from
// an abstract baseclass)
class my_interface
{
public:
    virtual void do_something() = 0;
    virtual ~my_interface() = default;
protected:
    my_interface() = default;
};
// 
class my_concrete_class :
    public my_interface
{
public:
    my_concrete_class() = default;
    // to show my_concrete_class 
    // instance will be deleted by smart pointer.
    ~my_concrete_class()
    {
        std::cout << "my_concrete_class destructor\n";
    }
    void do_something() override
    {
    }
    
};
int main()
{
    int my_int{ 1 };
    int& ref_to_my_int{ my_int }; // no & this ensure a ref is always refering to a valid object
    int* ptr_to_my_int{ &my_int }; // non-owning pointer https://isocpp.github.io/CppCoreGuidelines/CppCoreGuidelines#r3-a-raw-pointer-a-t-is-non-owning
    ref_to_my_int = 42; // modify through reference
    std::cout << "my_int now has value " << my_int;
    // create a scope that determines life cycle of my_concrete_class.
    {
        std::cout << "entering scope 1\n";
        std::unique_ptr<my_interface> itf_ptr{ std::make_unique<my_concrete_class>() };
        std::cout << "going out of scope , unique_ptr will be destructed\n";
    }
    {
        std::vector<int> values{ 1,2,3 }; // will dynamically allocate memory for 3 ints 
        std::cout << "vector going out of scope, will delete allocated memory\n";
    }
    return 0;
}